Caring for your relationship during fertility treatment

What can we do to care for our relationship?

Communicate

Communication means talking to your partner. It is very important to talk openly about any fears or worries you might have.

Discuss your fears

If you are having difficulties becoming pregnant you may have many fears such as not becoming pregnant, financial worries or fears that your relationship will break down. This is especially important for the partner who has the infertility diagnosis.  Open and honest conversations can help clear the air and provide reassurance for you both.

Listen as well as talk

You and your partner may have differing ideas on the best options for treatment. If treatment is unsuccessful, making the decision to stop treatment can cause lots of tension. Sometimes, one partner would like to explore all avenues of treatment, whilst their partner might wish to stop treatment altogether.

Although you need to talk to your partner about your feelings, it is just as important to listen to what they have to say. Try not to become defensive if they say something you would rather not hear. Their opinion is as important as yours.

Do not let fertility take over

Although it is important to talk about your feelings, try not to have every conversation revolve around becoming pregnant. Make a conscious decision to talk about other things happening in your lives.  If it helps, set aside a specific period of time each day to talk about fertility issues and for the rest of the day talk about other things which are important to you both.

Remember: Responsibility for open communication in a relationship is shared by both partners.

Keep sex fun

Many couples feel pressure to have regular sex when trying to become pregnant. Timing sex around ovulation can take away spontaneity that many people find enjoyable. There is a danger that sex can become a job to be done rather than an enjoyable experience between two people. Many couples feel they are expected to ‘perform on demand’. This can lead to tension within relationships. This sexual pressure can cause sexual problems. You and your partner may have difficulty becoming aroused. The male partner may have difficulties getting an erection and may be unable to achieve orgasm. Many couples report dissatisfaction with their sexual lives.

It is important to keep the romance alive by going on regular ‘dates’ and spending time together that does not revolve around trying for a baby. Try to have sex for fun rather than sex to become pregnant. This is particularly true for the time after ovulation where chances of becoming pregnant decrease considerably.

Don’t be afraid to seek help

Sometimes it is necessary to seek professional help. Speaking to a counsellor can help you and your partner cope with relationship concerns. Here at the Waterstone Clinic it is a requirement for all couples to undergo one counselling session before beginning fertility treatment. However our counsellor is available to you at any stage during the process. This service is provided free of charge. Discussing your concerns in an open, supportive environment can help overcome worries you might have. Bringing issues into the open can clear the air and help find solutions. Please contact (021) 4865764 to make an appointment.

There is no doubt that infertility challenges the strongest of relationships. Giving extra care and attention to your relationship at this time is essential.

Helpful tips to improve your health and promote weight loss:

  • If you are overweight, have an overall target of losing 5-10% of your body weight
  • Set a realistic goal: aim to lose 1 – 2lb per week
  • Eat breakfast each day
  • Make a fruit salad in the morning and keep in the fridge to snack on throughout the day
  • Monitor portion sizes by using a smaller plate (such as a salad plate)
  • Eat slowly
  • If you feel hungry drink cold water
  • Avoid situations where you will be tempted to over-eat
  • If you are planning to eat out in a restaurant make sure you visit the website www.weigh2livesafefood.eu. This informative website provides a list of ‘healthy’ foods they recommend to order in a variety of restaurants such as Chinese, Italian and Japanese
  • Have a small snack an hour or two before you go out for dinner so as you won’t be over-hungry and over-eat when you get to the restaurant
  • Make sure you have at least 5 portions of fruit and vegetables a day.  These are an important source of antioxidants which are known to improve the fertility of men and women
  • Replace full fat products with low fat alternative such as low fat milk, butter and cheese.  Replace fizzy drinks with diet fizzy drinks. Change from white bread and rice to wholemeal/ brown bread and rice
  • Never go grocery shopping hungry and always bring a shopping list with you
  • You should also consider keeping a food diary.  Recording everything you eat each day can help you to monitor what you eat.  Make sure you fill it out each day!
  • Exercise regularly; all adults should be doing at least 30 minutes of moderate intensity exercise 5 time per week. However this may need to be increased up to 60 – 75 minutes a day to lose weight
  • Walk or cycle instead of using other forms of transport
  • Take the stairs instead of lifts
  • If you are joining a slimming club make sure their principles are based on healthy eating and do not expect you to lose more than 1 – 2lbs per week.

Losing weight and getting healthy takes serious commitment and determination.  For more information on managing your weight and getting healthy visit;

http://weigh2live.safefood.eu

www.getirelandactive.ie

5 Foods to Boost Fertility

Adding these five foods to shopping cart can help you to pivot away from heavily processed food choices, and find your path to optimal health, and perhaps, increased fertility.

Walnuts
Fertility discussions usually focus on women’s aging ovaries, but we all know it takes two to tango. And research suggests that for men, a couple of handfuls of walnuts every day may be the ticket to stronger, faster, even prettier sperm. The study printed in the journal Biology of Reproduction looked at the effect of added polyunsaturated fatty acids on the sperm health of 117 healthy men aged 21 to 35. Sure enough, those that ate 75 grams of Omega-3 rich walnuts (about 2/3 cup, or 2 man handfuls) experienced improvement in sperm vitality, motility, and morphology. The nut-free control group experienced no changes. Most of us, men and women, can benefit from additional Omega 3s, so consider making walnuts a staple on your weekly grocery list.

Ice Cream
Ladies, you can now add “reproductive health” to the list of reasons you need to keep the freezer stocked with ice cream. A study published in the journal Human Reproduction suggests full-fat dairy may increase a woman’s chances of ovulating. Researchers found that women enjoying a scoop of full-fat ice cream at least twice a week had a 38 percent lower risk of anovulatory infertility compared with women consuming ice cream less than once a week. Low-fat dairy, on the other hand, had the opposite effect. The results may seem to contradict standard nutritional advice, but researchers suggest skimming the fat from dairy alters its balance of sex hormones in a way that could tip the scales against ovulation. While more research is required into the relationship between dairy and fertility, you can check out a list of some of my favorite full-fat, minimally processed ice cream brands in “Eat It to Beat It.”

Carrots
A study by Harvard researchers printed in the journal Fertility and Sterility found that produce rich in beta-carotene can improve sperm motility (its ability to swim toward an egg) by up to 8 percent. Carrots were singled out for their sperm-boosting properties. Luteine, an antioxidant found in leafy greens, had a similar effect, according to the study. So make like Bugs Bunny and get snacking. When it comes to male fertility, that’s what’s up, doc!

Lentils
An inexpensive form of vegetarian protein and fiber, lentils are also a rich source of iron, a mineral known to play a key role in reproductive health. In a well-cited Harvard School of Health study, women who got most of their iron from plant sources reduced their risk of infertility by 40 percent. Moreover, the higher the dose of the iron supplements, the lower the risk. Women who took the highest doses, more than 41 milligrams a day, reduced their risk of ovulatory infertility by 62 percent. Iron from meat didn’t show the same benefits. While researchers don’t recommend popping iron supplements as an aid to becoming pregnant, supplementing a well-balanced diet with a whole-food multivitamin may improve your overall health and, consequently, your baby-making prospects.

Spinach
Get the man in your life to start channeling Popeye, and you may soon have a baby on board. A study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility found that supplemental folic acid and zinc to increase sperm counts in men with reduced fertility. You can find sperm-boosting folic acid, the B9 vitamin, in leafy greens like spinach and kale. And lentils are a good source of zinc; one more reason to add them to your shopping list!

Dave Zinczenko, ABC News nutrition and wellness editor, is a New York Times No. 1 bestselling author. His latest book, “Eat It to Beat It!” is full of food swaps, meal plans and the latest food controversies.

Seven Things to Boost Male Fertility

1. Ease back on the Nespressos – scientific studies vary in their conclusions and it’s difficult to separate caffeine intake from other lifestyle factors but some research suggests too much caffeine can reduce sperm count. Don’t forget the caffeine in fizzy drinks and when ordering from the big coffee chains ask for one shot, not two.

2. Stay out of the sauna. Extreme heat is very bad for sperm and if you sit cooking them in a sauna they will be collapsing left, right and centre. Hot baths are also a no-no, though showers are OK. The good news though, if you have been indulging in spa facilities recently, is that sperm count will usually return to normal within about 3 months.

3. Cut back on the booze –  One large study published in 2009 found that couples who shared one bottle of wine a week were 25% less likely to be successful at IVF.

3. Eat well – breakfast, lunch and dinner, all to contain some protein to help balance blood sugar throughout the day, plenty of leafy green veg, not too much sugar etc – you know the drill. You don’t have to deny yourself the treats you love but eat more of the good stuff and the rubbish will be crowded out.

4. Don’t use a laptop on your lap. There is the heat generated by the computer itself which is directed straight at the testicles but also the knees together position used to balance the laptop has an effect. It takes only 20 minutes of sitting with the knees together for the testicular temperature to rise to a level that adversely affects sperm.

5. Drink plenty of water. Semen is 98% water. If you’re a bit dehydrated your body directs what water it has to your heart, your brain, your liver, your lungs – the major organs – and your reproductive system is way down the pecking order. Aim for 1.5 to 2 litres a day.

6. Take your mobile phone out of your trouser pocket. Further research in this area is needed but initial evidence suggests that men who carried their mobile phones in their trouser pockets had reduced motility and sperm count. Put it in your jacket pocket instead and store it off your body altogether whenever you can.

7. Ejaculate regularly. It does no good to store up sperm and in fact the more you ejaculate the more you stimulate the testes to produce new, young, fit, healthy sperm which are more likely to be capable of fertilisation.

Egg freezing: How I made an Agonising Decision over my Fertility

Early in 2014, I set myself a challenge: to decide whether or not to freeze my   eggs.

I was 42, single and childless. But I had a great life. How much did I really   want to change it by having a baby? Would I ever meet a suitable partner?   Did I really want to be an older mother?

How desperate was I to be a mother anyway?

As I researched the subject, I realised that it would make a fascinating   documentary topic for Al Jazeera, where I work. After all, it’s a pretty hot   topic, with companies such as  Apple and Facebook offering to pay for female employees to freeze their eggs.

To be honest, when I started out, I didn’t envisage myself being quite so much   at the centre of it.

But, as the film progressed, it became clear that my own journey was key to   unlocking what the experience of weighing-up egg freezing is really like.

Exploring a personal subject in front of a crew and a potential audience of millions isn’t easy. Especially when I was used to being the one filming, not being filmed.

And you can’t get much more personal than fertility. I had to face up to some big truths on camera.

But I’m not the only woman asking herself these types of questions.

Nor am I the only woman in her early 40s, single and childless. On the   contrary, as I and the producer, Lynn Ferguson, researched the film – which   airs tonight – it became clear that I am part of a growing trend.

Three times as many women are having children in their forties, as in my mother’s generation. One in five women in Britain and the US are childless   in comparison to one in 10 a generation ago. For women born in the 1970s,   like me, that could be as high as one in 4. I am in fact a good example of “women these days”.

It was clear – this is what the film needed to be about.

The assumption is that childless women have focused on themselves and their   careers, instead of family. Sure, work can play a part, but it’s far from   being the whole story.

Many women are childless by circumstance, not by choice. There can be all   sorts of reasons – not meeting a suitable partner in time, ambivalence about   having children until it is too late, being unaware of how rapidly fertility   declines, not having the funds, not feeling ready to have a child and so on.

I had been pretty ambivalent about whether or not I wanted to have children.   My life was fulfilling and interesting. I loved my work – making   documentaries around the world. It was a life full of adventure and I didn’t   feel any void. I’d had some good relationships with men but none of them had   worked out in the long-term.

By the age of 42, however, the thought of never having children was preying on   my mind. As I met consultants who told me the stark facts about fertility at   my “advanced maternal age” I began to have sleepless nights.

The fact that I myself might never have a family was something I had to face   up to in front of the documentary crew. Not easy.

But, inspired by the women I met during filming, I believed that a personal   and honest exploration of the subject was the best way of helping others in a similar situation to myself.

I also hoped that my journey through the subject might be benefit younger   women, too. In today’s super busy, high-pressure world – when there are so   many demands on our time and so many option – I would encourage every woman   to really think about whether, when and how she wants to have children,   before the age of 35.

This is when fertility first starts to drop.

As I looked at fertility forums online and read the stories of childless   women, or women struggling to start a family, I was deeply affected by the   huge amounts of desperation and pain. The grief of childlessness can be   particularly difficult to deal with, because it can be an intensely lonely   experience. It is rarely publicly acknowledged or discussed. I wanted the   film to raise at least some awareness of this issue.

Although I’d never felt desperate to have a child, hearing the experiences of   other women made me realise that I might feel a huge gap if I didn’t have   one. The possibility of prolonging my fertility through egg-freezing became   increasingly attractive. It might buy me some time to meet the right man.   Wouldn’t I regret passing up this opportunity?

But was it worth spending so much money (around £9,500 in the UK), on   something that consultants told me only had a 10 per cent rate of success at   my age?

I was helped out of this dilemma by two things. I live in Istanbul, a short   plane ride away from Cyprus, where good treatment comes relatively cheap.   And I was told by doctors that I was a good candidate because my ovaries   were in above average shape for my years.

And so, in the end, after weeks of agonising, I decided to go ahead and freeze   my eggs. The documentary also follows me through that process.

Time will tell whether I will ever use them. And if I do? Who knows, maybe   there will be a second film in the offing.

By Amanda Burrell, Al Jazeera English

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11272565/Egg-freezing-How-I-made-the-painful-decision-over-my-fertility-on-TV.html

Motherhood on Ice: Why I Chose to Freeze My Eggs

In the weeks leading up to this I’d been talking to people including doctors and women who’d frozen their eggs to help me make up my mind.  I’d also been making a documentary about the process for Al Jazeera English.

My decision wasn’t an easy one, particularly given my age.  I feel as energetic as I always have done, and I still imagine that I have heaps of time ahead of me to live out all my dreams. So it was bit of a shock to learn from fertility consultants that a woman’s ‘advanced maternal age’ starts at 37.  That makes me, at 43, practically ancient.  Not only are my eggs running out, but the ones left are likely to be poor quality, with an 80% chance of being chromosomally abnormal.

I’ve never been desperate to have children. I was, rather, ambivalent about them, choosing a life of adventure, making films around the world, living abroad, rather than settling down and starting a family.   But in the course of exploring whether egg freezing was for me or not I realized that, while I knew I could continue to have a happy life without children, the prospect of a childless future wasn’t one I was ready to accept.  Egg freezing was the only viable option for me as a single woman who didn’t want to use donor sperm or bring up a child alone.

More and more women these days are, like me, leaving it late in the day to have or even think about having children. I went to Cambridge to meet academic Irenee Daly who had researched why this is.  She found that the pressure to have a good career plays a part, as do economic constraints and a misunderstanding of fertility, fed by media stories of older celebrities having babies.   Ambivalence about having children is common largely, Irene thought, because ‘Life is too busy to have time to feel broody’. Many women assumed they would be mothers but wanted to have packed in lots before then – a great career, travel, finding the right man, marrying and living with him a few years before conceiving.

Women’s social and career clocks, it seems, are clashing with their biological ones.   The result is that today, three times as many women are having children in their forties in Britain, as in my mother’s generation.  1 out of 5 women in Britain and US are childless in comparison to 1 in 10 back then.

I wondered if I should give up gracefully and accept that I was never to be mother.  But I was encouraged not to by tests which showed that my ovaries were in good shape.  “Like a woman 10 years younger” exclaimed my doctor.  This, plus the fact that good and relatively cheap treatment was available in Cyprus, a 90 minute flight from my home in Istanbul were two of the main factors prompting me to decide to freeze.

Contrary to warnings, I didn’t find the medical process too difficult.   The hormones I needed to take to prepare me for collection didn’t affect me too badly, beyond one tearful morning and a clumsy afternoon, which left me with a few less glasses and a cracked laptop screen.  After collection I was a bit sore in my right side but otherwise fine physically.

There was, however, one thing that was difficult to handle. The doctors had expected over 10 mature eggs to be collected, but only 5 were. 10 is the minimum that I had been advised were needed in order to make a future IVF cycle worthwhile.  I had to accept that a second collection was necessary.   And that my ovaries, however well they had shown up in previous tests, really were 43.

I’d embarked upon freezing with my eyes wide open, knowing that it wasn’t the insurance policy it is so often sold as, particularly for a woman of my age.  Even so, getting only five eggs was disappointing.    There could be several reasons for this – a younger woman might get less eggs on a particular month – but I couldn’t help feeling that it must have had something to do with my age.  I suddenly felt old.  We are all living longer but fertility is still as short as it ever was and I am coming to the end of mine.

My frozen eggs, however, may prove to be my way of prolonging it.  I have just started taking hormones to prepare me for the second collection.  Once that is over, however many eggs are collected, then I will at least feel satisfied that I’ve done all I can in my current circumstances.

Amanda Burrell

Manager, In House Productions,  Al Jazeera English Turkey

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amanda-burrell/freezing-eggs-pregnancy_b_6286724.html

Mixed reaction to Apple egg freezing offer

By Catherine Shanahan, Irish Examiner

Apple has become the latest Silicon Valley giant to appear to make it easier for women to focus on their careers and delay having children. From next January, it will follow in the steps of Facebook by offering to fund the cost of egg freezing procedures, which can cost up to €10,000 plus €500 per year to store the eggs.

Apple also operates an adoption assistance programme where it reimburses eligible expenses associated with the legal adoption of a child.

“We want to empower women at Apple to do the best work of their lives as they care for loved ones and raise their families,” an Apple spokesperson said in an email.

However reaction to the offer is mixed, with some questioning Apple’s motivation.

Dr John Waterstone, medical director at the Waterstone Clinic, said his concern was that egg freezing was not tremendously successful. He said research published in international journal Fertility and Sterility in 2013 showed the chance of a woman having a baby after having eggs frozen at age 25 was 31.5%. That reduced to 19.3% when the women was aged 35 at the time of the procedure.

“Offering to pay for egg freezing is almost encouraging women to delay having babies even further,” he said.

“Egg freezing is not a perfect science and there is a big chance the eggs won’t work. It is completely different to freezing sperm which is very robust and freezes well. Perhaps a more responsible approach would be to make it easier for women to have kids younger by allowing them take more time off and having more family-friendly policies.”

The medical director at Beacon CARE Fertility in Dublin, Dr Ahmed Omar, said they were seeing “more and more Irish women” enquiring about the option of egg freezing with the hope of preserving their future fertility.

“A barrier to preservation in the past has been financial, so the fact that employers are now considering funding employees as a benefit is very interesting and could open opportunities for more women,” he said.

Beacon egg freezing costs €3,000, which includes one year freezing and after that, €500 storage per year.

Exactly what’s involved in putting your fertility on ice?

By Rowena Walsh, Irish Independent

When it comes to job perks, freezing your eggs may not be quite the treat you were planning to enjoy come bonus time. But it’s the latest on offer for female employees at tech giants Apple and Facebook, who are already receive lavish with healthy and wellness benefits to encourage loyalty.

The idea is that women who want to put their careers first no longer have to sacrifice having children. Fertility treatment is seen to ‘level the playing field’ for female employees, which is something that Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg has long campaigned for.

But whatever about seeming to empower women, there is something fundamentally creepy about your employer becoming involved in your fertility.

Egg freezing allows a woman to have her eggs extracted and stored. They can then be planted into her uterus at a later time, meaning that she can delay getting pregnant. It is becoming increasingly popular among Irish women.

“Seeing so many people going through IVF and ultimately not being able to have children made me think about freezing my eggs. I think of it as an insurance policy,” says Aoife (not her real name).

“I am in a relationship now, but it’s early days and I don’t want children right now. It’s not the right time for me,” says the 29-year-old office worker.

“I haven’t discussed it with my partner, it was a decision I made before I met him, but I have spoken to my friends. Some of them are in the same boat and they are also thinking doing it.

“Although I don’t know anyone who has had the procedure, there doesn’t seem to be any downside. If it saves you going through a lot of stress and an ordeal later in life, why wouldn’t you do it. It is expensive, but it’s good value compared with going through a lot of fertility treatments when I’m older. I know it isn’t a guarantee, but it does take the pressure off.

Dr Ahmed Omar of Beacon CARE Fertility, a clinic offering social egg-freezing in Ireland, is seeing many more women like Aoife, who are willing to pay a fertility insurance policy. It is one way to deal with the insidious ticking of our biological clocks, as well as the doom-mongering about the fertility cliff women hit when they reach 35. Beacon CARE Fertility charges €3,000 for the process, which includes freezing for the first year, and a €500 annual fee for storage after that. There is an extra charge for additional cycles.

Social egg-freezing is a relatively new concept in Ireland. Beacon CARE Fertility started offering the procedure a couple of years ago and they are currently doing two or three treatments per month. Of the women who come in for a consultation, between 70 and 80pc go through with the procedure. “There are many reasons why women may want to freeze their eggs,” says Dr Omar, “and sometimes it simply just isn’t appropriate or possible to have babies at the most fertile age.”

When they’re born, girls have two million eggs, a figure which drops to about 400,000 by the time we reach reproductive age and when a women reaches her 35th birthday, about 95pc of her ovarian reserves gone. Matters are further complicated by the fact that the quality of her eggs has diminished too, so becoming pregnant naturally can be a struggle.

In Dr Omar’s experience, there are three main groups of women who are interested.

The majority either want to establish their careers before having a baby or haven’t met the right man yet and are worried that it might be too late by the time they do.

Others are concerned about their family history of premature menopause or ovarian cancer and may be thinking of having their ovaries removed. A smaller group work in a hazardous situations, for example in a chemical factory or around pesticides.

Martina Kelly, the clinical director of the Clane Fertility Clinic, says that when they first offered the procedure, it will mainly taken up by single women focused on their career, but their clientele is now more varied, including those who are still in education – sometimes families will make provision for that, this is a very typical scenario in the US – to those who always wanted a family and wish to optimise their potential whatever their background.

Meanwhile Dr Omar says that it takes courage to go through the treatment and “there is no guarantee that frozen eggs will result in a successful future pregnancy”.

The collected eggs are put through a process of flash-freezing or ‘vitrification’. This has had a major impact in the success of egg freezing. According to Dr Omar, previously the process involved slow-freezing of eggs, and the results weren’t great – between 2 and 10pc based on a study because of this mechanism. It caused crystals to form in the eggs, which damaged them.

“In a few years, the number of women having the treatment will be much higher and the chances of achieving a baby thanks to frozen eggs will be much higher. One day, there will be no difference between a woman who freezes her eggs at 35 and one who uses her eggs fresh at the same age.

“Hundreds of babies have now been born worldwide using previously frozen, thawed mature eggs. Using advanced techniques, the average success rates using frozen eggs continue to increase at Beacon CARE Fertility and its UK sister clinics, and is now at 39.5pc per attempt.”

However, to date, only a single patient at the Irish clinic has used her frozen eggs. The 37-year-old had left 13 eggs in storage for a year, and so far has not given birth.

Egg freezing is certainly not a panacea for those worried about their fertility, a view strongly felt by Dr John Waterstone, medical director of Waterstone Clinic

“No Irish fertility unit has yet frozen an egg, thawed it, fertilised it and produced a successful pregnancy,” he says, adding that, theoretically egg freezing makes a lot of sense, but there’s a gulf between theory and practice, particularly with regard to the success rates of the technology.

“There are no guarantees in reproductive medicine, and the data from the US is not encouraging with regard to the success of a woman having frozen her eggs, even repeatedly, would have a baby as a result. There is maybe a 19pc chance.”

Dr Waterstone believes social egg-freezing encourages women to put off having babies, and “at the present stage of technology, I couldn’t advocate getting it done in Ireland or England. They haven’t achieved proven high success rates because it hasn’t been used a lot in egg donation. Go to the US or Spain, or a place where they freeze eggs a lot as part of the egg donation process.” This enables them to perfect their techniques freezing and thawing them in a short time frame to find out if the process really works.

As more women like Aoife opt for a fertility insurance policy, Dr Omar points out that some who do freeze their eggs will never need them.

“It’s a safety plan. They might be the right person in the next year or two and go on to get pregnant naturally.”

So, what’s involved?

It begins with a thorough medical consultation and a woman’s ovarian reserves are checked through an AMH blood test. Dr Omar is insistent that it is imperative that women must be very informed in order to manage expectations before they go through the procedure.

After a woman turns 40, her ovarian reserves will be quite low, and the risk of chromosomal abnormalities, such as Down syndrome, and miscarriage are higher. The process involves a woman injecting themselves with ovulation stimulants on a daily basis for two weeks prior to the egg collection and getting scanned every three to four days.

Everyone’s ovarian reserves are different and the quantity and quality of eggs will differ depending on the person.

The process of egg retrieval involves conscious sedation and it’s done by trans-vaginal ultrasound. A small needle is passed into the follicles and the solution is sucked into the test tube. This is then passed on to the embryologist who look at them under a microscope to see if an egg has been retrieved. If so, they will assess whether they are mature enough – normally 80-90pc will be, however. The eggs are then flash-frozen in a process of vitrification. When a woman decides to use her eggs, sperm is injected into them and they are fertilised to become embryos. The strongest one or two are then implanted into the woman, and it is hoped that pregnancy will result.

5 Foods That May Hurt Male Fertility

Guys, you’ve heard the standard advice for protecting your swimmers: Don’t wear tight undies. Keep your laptop far from, well, your lap. Stop smoking ASAP. But there may be an even easier way to shield your sperm —  watch what you eat. “We’ve noticed that fertility has been decreasing over the past several decades. And guys want advice to improve upon matters,” said Dr. Ryan Terlecki, director of the Men’s Health Clinic for the Wake Forest University Department of Urology. “Most guys have never even heard that anything in their diet could impact sperm count.”

But the truth is, an emerging body of research suggests that the foods you pile on your plate may play a role in the number of sperm you have (count), whether they’re normally shaped (morphology), and how well they move (motility).

How that does that play out in the bedroom? “Sperm count is, of course, important, because if it’s not there, you’re not going to [biologically] father a kid,” said Dr Paul Turek, president of the Society for Male Reproduction and Urology. “And I think sperm motility is more important than sperm count.” Although morphology is less firmly linked to fertility, it has been shown in a number of studies to influence reproductive success, said Audrey Gaskins, who researches nutrition and fertility at the Harvard School of Public Health.

Although the research is still new, one thing is clear: The foods that may pose a threat to male fertility are many of the same dietary culprits behind things such as Type 2 Diabetes and heart disease. That means you’d be smart to avoid them, regardless of whether you plan to make a baby any time soon. The following foods might get in the way of fatherhood:

Processed Meats

Sure, meat is considered the ultimate man food — but if you eat the wrong kind, your sperm could be compromised. In a 2014 Harvard study, men who consumed the most processed meat — hamburgers, hot dogs, salami, bologna, bacon — had 23 percent fewer normal sperm than guys who ate it sparingly. In another 2014 study, published in the journal Epidemiology, the same researchers found that eating processed meat was associated with lower sperm count.

Interestingly, saturated fat intake — which has previously been blamed for poor sperm quality — wasn’t the nutritional connection. “We didn’t find a link with unprocessed red meat, so it seems to be something that happens in the processing that is detrimental to sperm quality,” Gaskins told Yahoo Health.

One possibility: Processed meats tend to house more hormonal residues than other meats, which could have potential reproductive consequences. “In the U.S., we allow more hormones to be administered to our cattle [than in the European Union],” she said. “So this is definitely one possible mechanism.”

Eat this instead: Want to boost your swimmers? Look to the sea: The same Harvard scientists found that men who eat lots of fish have, on average, a 51 percent higher sperm count than those who barely eat any. This link was strongest for dark meat fish, like salmon or tuna, although white meat fish, such as cod and halibut, had a positive effect, too.

“Dark meat fish have higher levels of omega-3 fatty acids,” which have been previously shown to boost healthy sperm, said Gaskins. The extra dose of vitamin D in dark-meat fish may also be a factor.

Full-fat dairy 

Whole milk may leave you with a fraction of the healthy sperm you should have. Young guys who eat at least two servings of full-fat dairy — especially cheese and whole milk — per day tend to have fewer motile sperm, according to a 2013 study in Human Reproduction. Don’t blame the cows, though: Pesticides and other chemical contaminants in the environment, which are attracted to the fat in dairy, may be what leads to subpar sperm, the scientists say.

Eat this instead: You don’t have to ditch dairy altogether. Just switch your focus to the low-fat kind: Men who consume a couple servings of low-fat dairy — especially 1% or 2% milk — per day have 33 percent higher sperm counts and more motile sperm than those who eat little or no low-fat dairy, a 2014 study in Fertility and Sterility found.

One explanation: Low-fat milk may boost levels of insulin growth factor-1, a hormone thought to aid the cells that help produce sperm, the scientists say. “It’s not always the sperm themselves [that are affected],” said Terlecki. “Sometimes, it’s the supporting cells — those that create testosterone to nurture sperm development, and cells that guide the sperm toward maturation. We see those cells affected a lot, in terms of compounds that come from the diet.”

Non-organic produce

That fresh spinach may come with a side of pesticides — and your sperm could be the first casualty: In a study presented at the 2014 American Society for Reproductive Medicine Annual Meeting, which took place this week, men who consumed the most pesticide residues through produce had 64 percent fewer normal sperm and 70 percent fewer motile sperm than guys who took in the least.

Pesticides may throw your hormonal balance out of whack, which can interfere with your body’s production of sperm, said Gaskins. “We’re concerned about low chronic exposure, day after day at a low dose,” she said. “Our body slowly becomes unable to deal with these low-level impacts over time. This slowly leads to destruction.”

Eat this instead: We’d never suggest you eliminate produce from your diet — but you may want to consider shelling out the cash for organic fruits and vegetables, especially when it comes to these pesticide-laden picks: apples, strawberries, grapes, celery, peaches, spinach, sweet bell peppers, nectarines (imported), cucumbers, and cherry tomatoes. A 2014 Environmental Working Group study showed that these 10 fruits and vegetables have the highest pesticide load.

Alcohol

You booze, you lose — sperm, that is. Drinking alcohol may have a negative impact on sperm concentration and motility, according to a 2012 Brazilian study of men seeking fertility treatments. Why? Downing copious amounts of alcohol may lead to total-body oxidative stress, which is a key cause of male infertility, the researchers say. But one drink probably isn’t a problem: “In moderation, alcohol intake seems to have no effect on semen quality,” Gaskins said. However, as a new Danish study found, modest but habitual alcohol intake — slightly less than a bottle of wine per week — may compromise sperm quality.

Drink this instead: An occasional beer probably won’t do your body any harm, but if you’re constantly sipping on something (besides water), make it pomegranate juice. In a Turkish study, male rats given pomegranate juice on a daily basis experienced a boost in sperm count and motility. The purple juice is a rich source of antioxidants, like vitamin C, and although this was an animal study, past research has linked a high intake of antioxidants in men to better semen quality. “Men who eat a healthier diet with higher antioxidants — particularly from natural foods, as opposed to supplements — tend to have higher motility,” noted Gaskins.

Soda

Here’s yet another reason to kick the can: In a new study of 189 healthy young men, published in Human Reproduction, regularly drinking sugar-sweetened drinks — slightly more than a serving per day — was linked to poorer sperm motility. (Interestingly, this connection was strongest among lean men.) Sipping on sugary beverages — soda, sports drinks, sweet tea — boosts your odds of insulin resistance, which in turn leads to oxidative stress that can damage your sperm, the scientists say.

Eat this instead: If you need a shot of sugar, make it the kind found in fruit — not soda. In the Brazilian study, the fruit was positively related to sperm quality, although, keep in mind, you should go organic whenever possible (or give your fruit a good scrubbing before eating it).

Shame and stigma still attached to infertility

By Catherine Shanahan, Irish Examiner

Helen Browne said infertility, which affects one in six people, was “still isolating, still stigmatising” especially for those living in rural areas where the issue was “not so much taboo” as “not discussed”.

“People are OK, generally speaking, about talking to their families and close friends, but not so much outside that circle,” said Ms Browne. “It can be very stressful for people if they are trying to conceal it from work colleagues. They end up sneaking out to clinic appointments and are very nervous about being seen going into the treatment clinic.”

Cork woman June Shannon, 43, who has endured four failed cycles of IVF treatment since 2009, said her experience was that people simply did not “stop to think”.

“In my experience, people were not deliberately nasty or stigmatising, but you are excluded from a lot of things if you are childless,” she said.

Ms Shannon, who will address NISIG’s annual conference at the Hilton Dublin Airport tomorrow, said she believed childless women — whether by choice or through infertility — were excluded from a lot of things in society.

“If you look at women’s magazines, so much of the focus is on women and their babies and their care, articles like ‘How to get my baby to sleep’,” Ms Shannon said. “It is such a wonderful thing to have a baby and I understand why children are the focus of so many articles but it just seems to be everywhere.”

Medical director at the Waterstone Clinic, John Waterstone, who will also address the conference, said media coverage of fertility treatments meant it was becoming “more normalised”. Last week, the media reported the first baby born from a transplanted womb.

Dr Waterstone will give a talk at tomorrow’s conference on pre-implantation genetic screening (PGS) and diagnosis (PGD).

PGD is generally the diagnosis of a single gene defect in the embryo for couples who have a single gene mutation and want to ensure their offspring will not carry the disease.

PGS involves screening for chromosomal abnormalities.

The NISIG conference, which gets underway at 9.30am, will also explore egg donation options and legal issues around surrogacy. Separately, an open information day will take place in the Kingsley Hotel in Cork on Sunday, organised by the CFC, for people unable to make the Dublin conference.